Is there an endpoint to self-improvement?

Many guys start improving themselves, assuming if they achieve their goals it’ll fix all their insecurities and solve all their problems.

  • “If I could just get laid consistently, I’d be happy.”
  • “If I was strong and buff, I’d be happy.”
  • “If I made enough money to pay all my bills and buy any toys I want, I’d be happy.”
  • “If I _____, I’d be happy.”

The problem with putting the focus and importance on the goal (and not the journey) is you’re defining an endpoint. You’re saying there’s a certain point you can get to where you’ll be happy and satisfied and won’t need to keep busting your ass with self-improvement.

The truth is you should never want to relax and stop improving. If you’re not improving, you’re atrophying.

In life, you’re either on an upwards trajectory (towards success), or a downwards trajectory (away from success). There is no in-between. If you think you’re “treading water” and staying still, you’re really moving away from success. Success doesn’t come from staying still.

A concept you’ll often hear from many guys (and a tonne of girls) is, “I want a partner who loves me for me”, or “I don’t want to have to keep pushing myself, always putting up a front and trying to be strong/alpha.” They’re complaining about having to improve themselves and actually make an effort to achieve the things they want to achieve. “It seems like a lot of work…”

So what, you want to give up completely, be a little pussy and sit around playing video games, being complacent, just “existing”?

Existing = sitting around just waiting to die.

Truth is you should be working on bettering yourself every day anyway; it should be a core part of who you are. It’s a core part of masculinity.

The day you feel like a completed product in one area of your life is the day you move on to the next area that needs handling. If you’re finally able to get laid consistently with hot chicks whenever you want, then it’s time to move on and start killing it with money/career. If you finally hit that gym goal you’ve been working on for 5 years, then it’s time to set the next goal. If your business finally makes 100k, then it’s time to work towards 200k.

You’ll never ever be satisfied with who you are as a person or where you are in life. You’re not supposed to be. You should definitely be happy and proud of your achievements; but that’s not the same thing as satisfied. Satisfied implies there’s no more work to be done, no more improvements to be made, nothing else to get better at. There will always be more to improve. You will never be perfect or complete.

Self-improvement is an in-tray that never gets emptied.

Once you get a taste for working on goals, pushing yourself, working on your mission, achieving big things – you’ll never want to stop. You’ll always want more.

And that’s a good thing. You’ll never, ever, ever, ever be bored. You’ll never, ever, ever be directionless. You’ll always know what it is you need to do, and where it is you want to go. You’ll have a sense of confidence & self-knowledge most people could never even dream of. You’ll know who you are, and who you’re going to be in 1 year’s time.

Eventually you’ll be satisfied with always being dissatisfied.